1. Begin by locating the Prostate Point. This point is located approximately
midway between the anus and the scrotum. Look for a slight indentation
while the Beloved tightens and relaxes his pc muscle. You can put considerable
pressure on this point, using several fingers, and many men find this very
pleasurable as they approach orgasm. Ask for feedback.
2. The Male Deer Exercise. Rub your hands together to charge them up.
The Lover may cup the testicles in his/her hand while the Beloved places
a hand one inch below the navel and makes 81 clockwise circles on the abdomen
or the roles may be reversed. Then make 81 circles counterclockwise. Then
tighten both the inner and outer anal sphincter and hold as long as comfortable.
Relax completely and repeat as many times as you can without discomfort.
The man can also do the Deer Exercise alone, using first the left hand,
then the right to hold his testicles.
3. Tantra Polarity. The Lover stands or sits on the right side of the
Beloved. Rub your hands together to charge them up. Place your left hand
on the Beloved's Heart (Fourth Chakra) and the right hand on the perineum
& scrotum (First Chakra). Hold this position for at least five minutes,
then move the right hand up to the pubic area (Second Chakra) covering
the lingam for another five minutes. Use your intuition or follow the Beloved's
requests to include other chakras.
4. The Lover then begins holding points around the perineum, inner thighs,
scrotum, and pubic bone. Explore the area where the muscles of the inner
thigh attach to the pelvic basin. Explore the midline of the scrotum and
the base of the penis. Explore the perineum and around the anus. Explore
the area over and along the ridge of the pubic bone. Hold each point for
three full breaths (longer if you feel an energy block or the Beloved tells
you you've hit a tender area.) If tender, lighten the pressure and hold
until you feel a release. Instruct the Beloved to breath into any painful
areas, using the natural breath.
5. Begin GENTLY stroking and massaging the lingam and scrotum using
lots of oil or lube. Try different rhthyms, pressures, and directions.
The most sensitive area is the underside of the head of the lingam. You
can use your left hand to move energy up to the heart chakra or stimulate
his breasts. Continue to check in with the Beloved to see what feels good.
Remind him to let you know if he's approaching orgasm so you can stop stimulation
while he squeezes the love muscles and/or apply pressure to the Prostate
Point while he takes a deep breath, holding as long as comfortable before
exhaling and relaxing the love muscles entirely (The Holdback or Pleasure
Extender). When his erection is reduced by at least 30% you can resume
stimulation and repeat. If he is not erect, continue to gently stroke and
massage the genital area as long as desired.
6. To conclude, return to the First and Fourth Chakra Tantra Polarity
Holds. Remember to breath. Enjoy! You can also combine this session with
the Circular Breathing session.